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Forbidden Fruit...Using Your Dead-Gender Bottom/Top Parts For Sexual Pleasure. Is It Okay?

Updated: Feb 24, 2020

Okay okay. I've had a couple folks ask me lately about their dead-gendered body parts being used during foreplay and intercourse. They felt it might be "wrong" to be using parts of their body that are of the sex/gender they do not identify with. They felt that maybe it meant that they were "less trans" for doing it. And they wanted my opinion on it. Well, this will be a blessedly short piece because my opinion is pretty solid on this: Use whatever yo mamma gave ya that makes ya happy. The End.

Look, everybody is put together differently. Everybody has differing degrees of dysphoria (or none at all). What you can deal with is up to you. I think it is a very positive thing to be able to learn to use the parts you have, if possible. There is no shame in it. There is only what you make of it. What you decide it means. If you are uncomfortable, get dysphoric, or just flat don't get pleasure from those parts anymore, then whatever. Move on to other regions that DO make you happy. Why settle for anything less than total bliss?

I believe we are overthinking things a bit in this case. Trying to decide what society might think of what you do in your bedroom is a fruitless labor. They should stay out of there for one thing. For another thing, your happiness is your own. You are responsible for your own joy. Seize it. There is nothing to be ashamed of. We were made as sexual beings (although there are some exceptions, yes), and it is a natural process. Listen, it really is quite simple. Let's say you are a cisgender female that likes to have her nipples stimulated. Okay. Cool. So what's wrong with being a transgender male and liking the same thing? Most cisgender men like it, too! Pleasure is pleasure as long as everyone is consenting adults. Please stop losing valuable life minutes by debating these things. Move on and be happy. Other people can think what they will. It means nothing.

And for those who have protested to me, "But I am planning on having GRS in the future and won't have that part anymore........"

Well, use it before you lose it! LOL! There is no right or wrong answer here. If it feels good to you, and doesn't cause any mental distress, then go for it. It's your body. Remember that.


Stacie, NP

Spectrum: The Other Clinic

Transgender Hormone Therapy

Telemedicine Clinic in Mississippi

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